THIS COMMENT BELOW brought out my FURY! I am so furious on behalf of this poor woman. I want all of you out there to give her the honest best advice you can because my word alone will probably not suffice.
ANONYMOUS SAYS: "I am a non muslim. My boyfriend is Muslim. He has been seeing me in secret from his family. He says he wants to marry me, but his family will not accept me. He introduced me to the mother and she hated me - I am uncovered.My family were none to happy either. Nothing could keep us away from eachother, and so we kept seeing eachother in secret, its been 2 and a half years now, and eventually we started sleeping together. We were very careful: I got the mirena coil which is 99.9% effective contraception. Now, despite a 1 in 1000 chance, I am pregnant and he wants me to have an abortion. He says he cannot bear the humiliation. Humilitation? did you hear that? I am his humilitation. I am still secret from his family: they will never know what I am going through. Maybe some day, this man will marry a nice sweet young pious girl: whilst I carry the scars the rest of my life. He claims he is a devout believer in the will of Allah. Humph. Really doesn't seem that way."
He is most certainly NOT a devout Believer. Abortions!!! Fornication!!! Lying!!! You are not something to be humiliated about! You are a woman whom he took advantage of. As for what to do about the future.
#1 Do not get an abortion. That poor baby is probably quite far along by now and has a soul. For you both to kill that soul is cruel. It's an innocent baby. After it's born you'll look at that face and be in love for the rest of your life.
#2 Get help from your family first. You're going to need their love and support. They wont be happy about this and sure it will cause a lot of drama but they are your family and you need to be open with them. (unless you fear for your life or the life of your child).
#3 Stop seeing this jerk. You may be ga-ga over him but who the heck wants to stay with someone like that, they can't even show your face to his family?!??!
#4 Either after the baby is born or a few months after call his mother and break the good news. Tell them it's your baby and HIS baby and that you will be raising it on your own.
Honestly I don't know how the drama will unfold as I don't know these people but that is my advice. But Please NUMBER ONE is soooooo important ok. I wish you well in this life. Have more respect for your self and your body dear sister and keep it safe for the one who will put a ring on your finger and proudly show you off to his family and will happily show off your baby bump. When you find that man keep him.
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Wednesday, February 25, 2009
"He's a Pedophile" Part1
When searching a definition of Pedophile. According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), pedophilia is specified as a form of paraphilia in which a person either has acted on intense sexual urges towards children, or experiences recurrent sexual urges towards and fantasies about children that cause distress or interpersonal difficulty.[4] Wiki.
Now when we research the many types of people that do this either through incest or through external means we find patterns of behavior that are repetitive. Many people have depression, stress, anxiety, and have fantasies of children. They are also loners and anti-social. They many times resort to sordid behaviors and immoral conduct to cover their desires.
Once they have a child they bribe it with niceness to make it trust the person. They teach it new ways to be loved, ways that are not good for themselves and the child. They tell the child with promises or threats not to tell anyone. They are furtive and secret and they warn the child to be too. They cause fear and emotional and usually physical harm to the child that will haunt them for the rest of their lives.
Now for non-Muslims who very well know the dangers of Pedophiles the thought of anyone having a good relationship free from sin and filth and harm with a child is unthinkable. Even if that "child" may be a mature adult mentally and physically.
Yet in Islam we have formed different ideas about what is acceptable and what is not with regards to consensual age of sex. We believe a person is physically ready by Allah's Will when they menstruate and have their first ejaculation. Mentally this differs. Some are later than others. Some are earlier than others. Some are ready mentally before they even have physical readiness. Yet the modern world just slaps a one-fits-all age of maturity on everyone. usually unsaid at 16, acknowledged at 18, and fully at 21. Yet time and time again we hear of young women having babies at 10,11, 14 etc... with the fathers also near this age. They are shunned by society. Many times we see older men marrying women 1/4th their age and loving responsibly their wives. As long as the woman is over legal age no one really says too much out loud.
YET THEY HAVE THE NERVE AND AUDACITY TO CALL MY BELOVED PROPHET, THE KINDEST GENTLEST MAN WHO WAS THE GREATEST TO HIS WIVES...
A PEDOPHILE! This makes me F U R I O U S !!!
Because Allah revealed to Prophet Muhammad in a dream the face of Aisha, who he was to marry. He told her parents about the dream. HE DIDN'T HIDE! It wasn't some fantasy! It's wasn't some wicked desire. He didn't dream of illicit relations he dreamed of her face! They came and asked her opinion. It wasn't secret. He wasn't slyly tricking her to marry him. She consented. The greatest proof of all that He is NOT a PEDOPHILE is he waited until she was physically mature to consummate the marriage. Pedophiles on the whole are not attracted to more mature bodies. They like smooth, young, innocent. Pubic hair for them is a turn off. So why would he wait if he was a wicked man as they claim him to be? Why would he marry old, widowed with children women if he so desired young women. He could literally have his pick of any woman in Arabia and who did he choose? The needy.
He was kind and friendly with Aisha. She wasn't afraid or traumatised by him. She became one of the greatest narrators of Hadith. Surely if she had been victimised she would have been telling horrid story after horrid story after the Prophet's death but she didn't she always told what a wonderful man he was.
So again it makes me FURIOUS when people say again and again that Our Beloved Prophet Muhammad is a Pedophile. A man whom Allah created to be the Seal of All Prophets and the greatest Man He created who had the most righteous character.
LA ILLAHA ILLALLAH, MUHAMMADUR RASULLULLAH.
Now when we research the many types of people that do this either through incest or through external means we find patterns of behavior that are repetitive. Many people have depression, stress, anxiety, and have fantasies of children. They are also loners and anti-social. They many times resort to sordid behaviors and immoral conduct to cover their desires.
Once they have a child they bribe it with niceness to make it trust the person. They teach it new ways to be loved, ways that are not good for themselves and the child. They tell the child with promises or threats not to tell anyone. They are furtive and secret and they warn the child to be too. They cause fear and emotional and usually physical harm to the child that will haunt them for the rest of their lives.
Now for non-Muslims who very well know the dangers of Pedophiles the thought of anyone having a good relationship free from sin and filth and harm with a child is unthinkable. Even if that "child" may be a mature adult mentally and physically.
Yet in Islam we have formed different ideas about what is acceptable and what is not with regards to consensual age of sex. We believe a person is physically ready by Allah's Will when they menstruate and have their first ejaculation. Mentally this differs. Some are later than others. Some are earlier than others. Some are ready mentally before they even have physical readiness. Yet the modern world just slaps a one-fits-all age of maturity on everyone. usually unsaid at 16, acknowledged at 18, and fully at 21. Yet time and time again we hear of young women having babies at 10,11, 14 etc... with the fathers also near this age. They are shunned by society. Many times we see older men marrying women 1/4th their age and loving responsibly their wives. As long as the woman is over legal age no one really says too much out loud.
YET THEY HAVE THE NERVE AND AUDACITY TO CALL MY BELOVED PROPHET, THE KINDEST GENTLEST MAN WHO WAS THE GREATEST TO HIS WIVES...
A PEDOPHILE! This makes me F U R I O U S !!!
Because Allah revealed to Prophet Muhammad in a dream the face of Aisha, who he was to marry. He told her parents about the dream. HE DIDN'T HIDE! It wasn't some fantasy! It's wasn't some wicked desire. He didn't dream of illicit relations he dreamed of her face! They came and asked her opinion. It wasn't secret. He wasn't slyly tricking her to marry him. She consented. The greatest proof of all that He is NOT a PEDOPHILE is he waited until she was physically mature to consummate the marriage. Pedophiles on the whole are not attracted to more mature bodies. They like smooth, young, innocent. Pubic hair for them is a turn off. So why would he wait if he was a wicked man as they claim him to be? Why would he marry old, widowed with children women if he so desired young women. He could literally have his pick of any woman in Arabia and who did he choose? The needy.
He was kind and friendly with Aisha. She wasn't afraid or traumatised by him. She became one of the greatest narrators of Hadith. Surely if she had been victimised she would have been telling horrid story after horrid story after the Prophet's death but she didn't she always told what a wonderful man he was.
So again it makes me FURIOUS when people say again and again that Our Beloved Prophet Muhammad is a Pedophile. A man whom Allah created to be the Seal of All Prophets and the greatest Man He created who had the most righteous character.
LA ILLAHA ILLALLAH, MUHAMMADUR RASULLULLAH.
"He's a Pedophile" Part2
Prophet Muhammad was not a Pedophile but there are many "Muslims" that are and they do so wrongly in His name. These men are sick and twisted with BIG mental ISSUES. They buy off a man for his daughter and then proceed many times before she is even Pubescent to rape her and have sex with her. He tortures her with fear and shame and trauma. She grows up thinking this is a way of life. Her children most likely will be sold off too. It's a vicious cycle. Who do they take as a source for their evil deeds? The prophet's Marriage of Aisha.
Now they are no Prophets. They don't even try to have good manners to their young brides. They are taking Islam totally out of context with their lack of knowledge and giving it a bad name to boot.
On the other hand there are very nice righteous men who just have a natural preference for young women by the Will of Allah they just cannot be satisfied with older women either because of physical attraction or the need to have children (from lets say a second or fourth wife) because the first ones were too old when married. I fully believe there is a reasonable allowance to marriage to a young woman. Provided he treats her as an adult in marriage and not a possession or sexual object. Provided he gives her, her physical, mental and provisional rights at all times. These men don't play little mind games with their brides. They treat them with respect they deserve. Yet Media hears of Ali Muhammad the Sixth at age of 47 marrying young Amirah Jamilah at the age of13 and call him a cradle robber. When Mrs. Amirah is quite happy and consented to the arrangement.
I also fully believe most but certainly not all of Western girls are not being developed mentally maturely by their parent's properly yet are physically growing and having sudden desires that make them uncertain and society doesn't allow them to do anything about it in a legal and sanctioned way like through marriage so they go to a party, get trashed, and have consensual sex at 11 if they aren't raped sometimes before that by Uncle Tony. We have teen pregnancies sweeping the nation. Hello! Allah gave them periods for what? TO bleed another 10 years without fruition? Why would He have given them it so early if it was not meant to be utilized in a proper form like through marriage. Now I'm not saying every girl needs to be flat on her back the day she has her period BUT we must allow that society has cause much of the drama and problems we see today as a result of repressed desires.
Back to pedophiles though. There are thousands of cases of Idiot men who do all this in the name of Prophet Muhammad and that is wrong. If they are decent people perhaps I have understanding for their needs and those of their beautiful beloved young brides but not before age of maturity and not to harm them in any way. But for those who harm and defile their young charges Shame on them... they know their lot if not for forgiveness and Mercy from Allah. The Ultimate Judge.
Now they are no Prophets. They don't even try to have good manners to their young brides. They are taking Islam totally out of context with their lack of knowledge and giving it a bad name to boot.
On the other hand there are very nice righteous men who just have a natural preference for young women by the Will of Allah they just cannot be satisfied with older women either because of physical attraction or the need to have children (from lets say a second or fourth wife) because the first ones were too old when married. I fully believe there is a reasonable allowance to marriage to a young woman. Provided he treats her as an adult in marriage and not a possession or sexual object. Provided he gives her, her physical, mental and provisional rights at all times. These men don't play little mind games with their brides. They treat them with respect they deserve. Yet Media hears of Ali Muhammad the Sixth at age of 47 marrying young Amirah Jamilah at the age of13 and call him a cradle robber. When Mrs. Amirah is quite happy and consented to the arrangement.
I also fully believe most but certainly not all of Western girls are not being developed mentally maturely by their parent's properly yet are physically growing and having sudden desires that make them uncertain and society doesn't allow them to do anything about it in a legal and sanctioned way like through marriage so they go to a party, get trashed, and have consensual sex at 11 if they aren't raped sometimes before that by Uncle Tony. We have teen pregnancies sweeping the nation. Hello! Allah gave them periods for what? TO bleed another 10 years without fruition? Why would He have given them it so early if it was not meant to be utilized in a proper form like through marriage. Now I'm not saying every girl needs to be flat on her back the day she has her period BUT we must allow that society has cause much of the drama and problems we see today as a result of repressed desires.
Back to pedophiles though. There are thousands of cases of Idiot men who do all this in the name of Prophet Muhammad and that is wrong. If they are decent people perhaps I have understanding for their needs and those of their beautiful beloved young brides but not before age of maturity and not to harm them in any way. But for those who harm and defile their young charges Shame on them... they know their lot if not for forgiveness and Mercy from Allah. The Ultimate Judge.
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